Getting that ‘the grass is greener on the employed side’ feeling?

by | Apr 24, 2019 | Freelance Mindset & Wellbeing

Ever had that “oh god this is so hard, maybe I should pack it all in and apply for a 9-5 job” feeling as a freelancer?

Every freelancer has at some point. Several points actually. Its a topic that comes up often in my FB group.

But why, when you otherwise enjoy being freelance? It’s your flight or fight response kicking in, when facing a challenge.

You have two options:

✈️ Flight, where you leave the freelance life

? Fight, where you push through, do something that scares you a little or up your pitching game.

Don’t feel like a failure if that flight feeling kicks in. You’re not! It’s just the body’s natural reaction to a slightly scary situation (like the end of a contract, a challenging client or business growth). But if you know logically that freelancing IS for you, it’s time to start choosing fight!

Here are five ways to ‘fight’:

  • Write down all the reasons you love freelancing. Put that list somewhere you can refer to later. It’s easy to get stuck into the details and overwhelm, but there’s a good chance there are plenty of reasons why the freelance life is for you – whether it’s flexibility, being able to control what you do, work around your family or work from home.
  • Work out what about your current situation is triggering this fear reaction. Then write down one thing you can do right now to improve that situation
  • Do something a little scary and outside your comfort zone, to show The Fear who’s boss! Get visible on a Facebook Live, email your old clients for testimonials or email a fellow freelancer to meet up for a coffee.
  • Get outside. If the weather is good, get outside for a walk. It can make a world of difference to your mood, and being out and walking nearly always gives my brain a chance to put forward a better solution.
  • Get coached! Coaching can really help you see the big picture, create a strategy, set manageable goals to get the momentum and confidence going again, and gives you tools to help with overwhelm. A coaching session can get you out of a funk, and get you feeling excited about freelancing again! You can find out more about my coaching for freelancers here, and book in a free 15 minute discovery call.


All about Emma Cossey

I’m a long-term freelancer, mum and all round digital geek, and I’m happy to welcome you to The Freelance Lifestyle. I launched this blog in 2011, to provide freelancers with down-to-earth support, and practical advice. I wanted it to be a kind, supportive place to get tips and advice on living a great freelance life. I’ve been a pro blogger, a social media consultant, a copywriter, a teacher… but my passion is helping people just like you take the next step. So whether you want to pick up tips from the blog, listen in to the podcast, come join the Facebook group or get some more focused 1-2-1 support with my coaching, there’s something here for you.

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